sometimes...!!!

sometimes whenever you watch any movie or anything on screen sometimes.. no actually most of the times its like you feel that the characters in it one of them is exactly same.. many a times i get really influenced i mean i know that's just impractical those are the stories written by the script writers but ours its a mixture by the almighty and the makers of our life we ourself... life is what you make it..huh..!! but yar YYYYYYY is it ki sometimes i really realize some great things..it get connected with my life but...still..its just a movie in the end..!!!

smile..!!

these days i am just waiting for my counseling to get a college so.. these days just passing my time with all those things for which i used to struggle to find time for... but still being alone means it feels good..you really get to know about yourself more and more.. 

but am gettig back to my topic ...hmmmm so sometimes you just lie down on ur bed with the favorite track with your headphones and you just close your eyes and find that you already in the world of your cherishing memories ... and may be you in your biggest trouble .. worst condition anything that moment there is a big SMILE" on your face and you really realize it later and sometimes that big smile ends in tears missing the great moments.. but with the confidence with many more to COME..

changes..!!!

changes are part of life...truly said but today.. m like day by day nothing changes but when i look back everything is different..little little changes everyday we are not able to notice they just go out of our sight..Nd when days pass by we observe..!! 

from my experience till now i don't find any reason for ny person to change in their words or behavior..

until smthing serious went wrong..

somehow leave...

guys always change in Ur life for things and move on but never for your beloved ones or those who care for you without NY returns..

you the one...!!!

"You are the one i trust the most,
You are the one i have faith the most.
i dont find the reason why you dont understand me
i dont know what my mistake is
i am sorry for the words i said
it hurted a lot in ur head
all this is not any drama
it is the real me
so plz forgive me
i am so small to understand how to live it
be like the one you used to b before
and guide me on each step
bcoz
You the one i trust the most,
You are the one i have faith the most..."

 she is mansi who dedicated this poem to me...

my sister

lov u  loads..!!!

i miss you..!!!

guys this is the poem which my sister ANUSHKA wrote...she got such a good talent in her...

this is dedicated to all my friends 

specially my bestest buddy TANJUL

I miss you my friend

I miss you

I miss our talks in between the classes

And our fearful clashes

I miss my class and fun of libraries

The scribbling on the diaries

Do you remember the breathless laughs of lunch?

Thinking of it my stomach pains so much...

I miss the drama of games period

And begging for drawings in the arts period

Laughing at others in computer lab

And falling on others lap

Commenting on seniors on the way

And the day spent together, on the ground we lay

The fights for teachers love

And the sleep at her laps….

The money for treats

And the dancing on streets

Those were the best moments

Hope we were together

But this time threw us apart

I miss you my friend

I miss you…

Self confidence...

Some few helpful tips on how to utilize self-talk towards
developing a healthy self-confidence:

1) Listen to your inner voice

• This is the first step in making good use of self-talk. Identify the inner

voice in you and listen to what it is saying. Ask questions like, regarding
the contents of the thoughts, the situations which brought about these
thoughts and the other factors which could have aggravated the
situation.

"Remember that this is to be done under the general goal of building
self-confidence, so try to be as honest as possible"
2) Thoughts Assessment

After the thoughts have been identified, it is time to assess them. 

What
are these thoughts saying in general? What attitude towards the self is
being projected by these thoughts? How have I responded to these
kinds of thoughts in the past? What have these kinds of thoughts
instilled in me throughout the years? Have they been helpful to me and
my quest towards self-confidence?

Another important thing to assess is the way a person responds to the
thoughts that are being said by the inner voice. 

A person might think
that negative thoughts are empowering and that they give the much
needed push to attain one’s goals. 

Negative thoughts and comments
can be helpful in the short run; however, they do more damage than
good. 

Negative thoughts instill a general feeling of hopelessness and
incompetence, especially if one fails more than once in a certain
endeavor. 

Viewing life in a positive light is the way towards building
self-confidence. When a person stumbles down, the inner voice should
say “stand up, you can do it!” rather than “you’re pathetic, stay down
before you hurt yourself again!”

The general tone of the inner voice is as important as what it is saying.
Negative tones should be controlled and be reversed into positive ones.
3) Make a difference
Dealing with one’s inner voice can be a daunting task. 

If it’s hard to talk
to somebody who wouldn’t listen, it’s even harder to talk and listen to
oneself since there can be no sensible argument that could happen.

Getting rid of the negative thoughts inside one’s head will give the
positive thoughts some space. It is all about rephrasing the negative
thoughts to make them positive.

One’s concept of the world is based on
his views of the world. You develop self-confidence by feeling good
about yourself. 

"The inner voice should not have control of the body it is
the person who should have control over the inner voice."
Self-confidence is like a pair of eyeglasses, having the right pair can
make one enjoy the beauty of things to the fullest.

 Life, if one truly
looks at it, is all about perception. One will never enjoy life if he
perceives it with much negativity. 

 This is also true in terms of viewing
oneself. 

Self-confidence is tied to having true happiness. True happiness
can only come from within a person’s heart and believing in oneself is
the only way to achieve happiness.

Fear...how to tackle..???

Fear of one’s self is demonstrated in several ways. You can experience
shyness, diffidence, bashfulness, timidity and a need of “self confidence”.
Here are some factors that contribute to one’s fear:

1. When we feel separated, fear increases. A fact is that one does not
fear those he is familiar with (people and surroundings). Fear arises
when there is a certain feeling of estrangement, which exhibits overall
sense or impression of suspicion.

2. Attachment to individuals as well as material things associated with
one’s security cause one to fear that one might loose them, so one will
do everything in order to protect one’s relationships, possessions or his
self-image.

3. Strange surroundings and unfamiliar people bring about fear.
Unfamiliar situations threat one’s security and usually one reacts with
extreme caution and at times, defensive behavior.
4. One’s negative memory of past experiences where one had either
suffered or witnessed loss, harm or death aggravates fear. The
subconscious retains memories of the past and at certain circumstances,
these are ignited.
5. Imagination at times can create or invent images of trouble, suffering
or pain outside physical truth or reality. Note that Imagination is never
negative, however when misused and abused, it can bring so much fear
in oneself.
Combat fear by developing self-confidence. Here are few guidelines:
1. Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what it is that you are capable
of achieving and praise yourself for your strength and your struggle
than focusing on the results. Beginning on a foundation of things that
you are capable rather than what should you be doing will help you live
and work within your limitations.

2. Talk to yourself. Examine yourself and practice how to handle
situations as well as counter negative ones. Know when to stop when
you catch yourself in a negative assumption.

For instance, when you find yourself demanding perfection, tell yourself
that everything can not result perfectly. This will allow you to believe in
yourself at the same time that you are striving to get better.

3. Evaluate yourself. Practice how to independently evaluate yourself.
This will let you avoid the persistent sense of confusion that results
when you are relying completely on the opinions and judgment of
others.

4. Take those risks. When you face and accept experiences as
instruments for learning than possibilities to lose or win, new
opportunities can be unlocked and this can develop your self awareness
and acceptance.

Remember, self-confidence can be developed, not inherited; and fear
can be overcome because you have the trust and the faith in yourself to
do so.